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How can a young man who is struggling to lower his gaze and avoid relationships in a mixed-gender university, and has fallen for a modest girl, free himself from this attachment, which he fears might compete with his love for Allah, the Almighty, knowing that it is impermissible to be lenient with her?

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Source: FtawySummary from Ftawy's records · added here Sep 2, 20261 min readAlso available in العربية
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First: Frequently supplicate to Allah, humbly implore Him, and ask Him for chastity and protection from error. Among the appropriate supplications is: "O Allah, I ask You for guidance, piety, chastity, and self-sufficiency."

Second: Be truthful with Allah and possess strong resolve, in accordance with His saying, the Exalted: "And when the matter is determined, if they were truthful to Allah, it would have been better for them."

Third: He must know that he is on goodness as long as he strives against his own self and is keen on its chastity.

Fourth: Accompany the good among students and cooperate with them in good deeds, calling to Allah, enjoining what is right, and forbidding what is wrong.

Fifth: His presence at the university should be only as much as needed.

Sixth: If continuing studies conflicts with preserving one's religion, then preserving religion takes precedence, because it is the greatest objective, and because its fruit is attaining eternal happiness.

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