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Does informing one's sister about the experience of severe pain during intercourse at the beginning of marriage fall under the warning of "divulging a secret"? What is the Shariah ruling regarding discussing intercourse between sisters, and is it entirely forbidden, or is it permissible for the purpose of guidance?

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The Sharia has forbidden the disclosure of marital secrets. Abu Sa'id al-Khudri reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Among the most evil people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection is a man who goes to his wife and she goes to him, and then he spreads her secret."

An exception to this prohibition is when there is a need to clarify a Sharia ruling, offer advice, or resolve a dispute between spouses. This is based on what was reported from Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that a man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about a man who has intercourse with his wife and then becomes sluggish (i.e., does not ejaculate), whether ghusl is obligatory for them. Aisha said: "Indeed, I and this one (meaning the Prophet) do that, then we perform ghusl." Also, there is what was reported in the story of Rifaa and his wife.

When there is a need, it is preferable to allude rather than state explicitly, and to mention the matter generally rather than in detail.

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