Is her patience with her husband's stinginess in providing food for her, despite his affluence and constant demands for cooking, praiseworthy patience or weakness and inability to demand her rights?

Patience with a husband's shortcoming in providing maintenance is commendable if it is out of contentment and the ability to demand it. However, if it stems from an inability to provide, then it is not commendable patience. The wife is permitted to take from her miserly husband's money, without his knowledge, what suffices her according to what is customary. If she is unable to do so, she may refer the matter to the judge to compel him to provide maintenance or to separate them.