What is the ruling on a wife abstaining from food and thinking negative thoughts due to repeated disputes with her husband that affect her dignity?
The marital relationship should be based on affection, mercy, understanding, overlooking faults, and each spouse considering the other. Each should look at the good aspects of the other's character. The wife should understand with her husband what happens between them in disagreements, rectify any shortcomings on her part regarding his rights, advise him gently, and explain to him that fulfilling promises and showing kindness to one's wife are among the ethics of believers. We advise the wife to be patient and overlook any slips from him, for overlooking them increases her dignity and honor, as stated in the Hadith: "Allah does not increase a servant who forgives except in honor." And among the good manners of a woman is her striving to please her husband, even if he is unjust. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "Shall I not inform you about your women from the people of Paradise? The loving, the fertile, the one who returns to her husband; when she harms or is harmed, she comes and takes her husband's hand, then says, 'By Allah, I shall not taste sleep until you are pleased.'"
Summarized from the full answer at Ftawy · reviewed Sep 2, 2026
Read the full answer on Ftawyhttps://ftawy.com/en/questions/111382