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What should I do with my wife who accuses me of not honoring her, even though I am not stingy with her, and with her difficult nature, her quick temper, and her continuous abusive language, despite my attempts to deter and advise her?

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There is no human without shortcomings, and the best people are those whose faults are few. If you dislike a certain trait in your wife, perhaps another trait of hers will please you, as Allah Almighty said: "But perhaps you hate a thing and Allah makes therein much good." (An-Nisa: 19). And the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "No believing man should hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another." Therefore, you must be patient with her, supplicate for her, and advise her to fear Allah.

The wife, in turn, must beware of disobeying her husband, recognize his rights, and beware of the two traits of ingratitude towards her husband and excessive cursing, which lead many women to Hell, as stated in the Hadith: "I saw that you women were the majority of the inhabitants of Hell... because you frequently curse and are ungrateful to your husbands." You should also look at those who are less fortunate than you and thank Allah for His blessings.

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