Is supplicating for the dismissal of a suitor, whose appearance makes you uncomfortable, considered an transgression or an injustice, and is this aversion natural, knowing that your family prevents the Sharia-compliant viewing, and your parents had previously become angry with you for rejecting a previous suitor for a similar reason?

The acceptance of the suitor's appearance is important for establishing acceptance and harmony between the spouses. Hence, Islam legislated looking (at the prospective spouse) for the purpose of engagement. The Prophet (peace be upon him) encouraged looking at the prospective bride, and some Companions acted upon this. If it is difficult for you to see him regularly, you can try to see him discreetly when he enters or leaves; this might be sufficient for initial acceptance.

One should not surrender to a feeling of aversion without seeing the suitor, as it might be an unfounded, unhealthy feeling. It is best to supplicate to Allah that He unite you both in goodness if the marriage is good for you, or that He turn him away from you if it is not.

If you cannot accept the suitor or the situation in general, we do not advise proceeding with the marriage, provided that you are moderate in your demands. If there is no escape, be frank with your family, for that is better than risking your future.