Is a wife considered disobedient (nashiz) if she abstains from her husband to seek reconciliation, and her intention is not total abstention, and do the angels curse her?

If the situation is as you described, your request to your husband for reconciliation is not an act of nushuz (rebellion). Rather, it is more akin to a refusal of endearment, which is not considered nushuz. Nushuz is defined as leaving the marital home, refusing to live with him, and denying intimacy, such that bringing her back to obedience requires significant effort. Even if there was a shortcoming on your part, you have apologized, and he should not refuse to accept the apology.

Our advice to you is to treat your husband kindly, to be a good wife to him, especially concerning intimate relations, and to overlook his shortcomings. Our advice to your husband is to treat you kindly, be a good companion to you, be gentle with you, be patient with you, and overlook your shortcomings.