What is the ruling on a mother severing ties with her son and his wife, after they requested an independent home, which led to the mother and her husband moving to live with the elder son, this being to avoid the forbidden and to ward off Allah’s wrath, knowing that the mother feels hatred towards her son’s wife and her family?

Your daughter-in-law has the right to an independent dwelling. The scope of this right, whether ample or limited, varies depending on the husband's financial capacity and the wife's circumstances. This is one of the wife's rights that she may relinquish in order to live with her husband's family. If she waives this right or if it is stipulated that she lives with his parents and she agrees, then she is not entitled to request a separate dwelling later.

Your daughters-in-law are not obligated to serve you and your husband, unless they do so willingly. Serving parents is not a husband's right over his wife; rather, her duty is to serve her husband and care for her children. If she does so seeking reward and to please her husband, it is an act of faith and chivalry.

Sons should help their wives in serving you, whether by hiring a maid if possible, or by assisting them with whatever they can. A kind word is charity.

It is natural for your feelings towards your daughter-in-law to change, but people of virtue should strive against their own desires, forgive and pardon those who err, and respond to ill-treatment with kindness; for this softens hearts and transforms enmity into affection. "And none is granted it except those who are patient, and none is granted it except one having a great portion [of good]."