What is the ruling on saying "it's in me, not in you" for consolation when afflicted with sorrow or similar distress?

The phrase "Ya layta bi ma bik" (Oh, if only what is with you were with me) means that if the speaker were given a choice between being afflicted with the worry or illness that affects the addressee, and the addressee being afflicted, the speaker would choose to be afflicted himself so that the addressee may be spared. This is close to the meaning of "tafdiya" (sacrificing oneself for another). Some scholars disliked this phrase, but the majority permit it because it does not involve a real sacrifice; rather, it is a gesture of kindness and an expression of love, as stated by An-Nawawi. Nevertheless, using other phrases to express kindness and high regard is preferable and safer, such as praying for the Muslim's well-being and the removal of their distress.