Should I forgive a friend who called me "wicked" before Ramadan, given that I can forgive her for everything except this insult? Is the word "wicked" considered an accusation of unchastity (qadhf) in Islamic law? Does not responding to her message affect the acceptance of my fasting? What is the ruling on my calling her "despicable"? How should the relationship with her be in the future? Is it obligatory to speak to her, or is merely exchanging greetings sufficient?

The jurists differ regarding the ruling on accusing a woman with the words "ya fajirah" (O immoral woman): - The Malikis: They view it as an accusation that necessitates the prescribed punishment (hadd), similar to saying "ya qahbah" (O whore). - The Hanbalis: They refer to the accuser's interpretation of the word; if he intended adultery by it, then the hadd is due, otherwise not. - The Shafi'is: They view the word as a metaphorical expression that could imply accusation or something else. So, if he intended accusation by it, the hadd becomes obligatory, otherwise not.

As for mutual insults, you are not to be held accountable as long as you do not exceed the limit by which you were insulted. Forgiveness is better, based on the Almighty's saying: "And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that which is better" and the Prophet's (peace be upon him) saying: "And turn away from whoever wrongs you," and "Allah does not increase a servant by forgiveness except in honor."

Mutual insults between you do not affect the validity of fasting. Rather, they may deprive those quarreling of the forgiveness that occurs on Mondays and Thursdays until they reconcile. And if you greet each other upon meeting, this is not considered forbidden abandonment.