What is the ruling on a father dedicating his attention to studies and marriage while leaving his children without financial support, and keeping his wife in a state of suspension without divorcing her? Is it considered disobedience for the children not to go and discuss the matter with their father, or for the questioner not to go, especially with the mother preventing them and her anger at the questioner's going? Is the questioner's vow to go, despite the mother's disapproval, considered disobedience to her? Is it permissible for the mother to prevent her children from going? And does the father's failure to cover his children's expenses prevent them from obeying him?
If the father neglects your mother and leaves her in a state of suspension, he is sinful. The maintenance of the wife and children is obligatory upon him. If the wife spends without intending it as a donation, she is permitted to claim the maintenance from her husband. The father's ill-treatment does not prevent the children from honoring and obeying him. Obedience to the father is obligatory in his command to attend the discussion, and the mother has no right to prevent them from attending. Care must be taken to reconcile the parents and make peace between them.
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