Must I break my fast in the first week of Ramadan to please my husband, who cannot control his desires?
Firstly: The saying "destiny willed it" is incorrect; for the one who wills is Allah alone.
Secondly: Intentional breaking of the fast in Ramadan is one of the gravest sins and exposes its perpetrator to a severe warning. A warning has been reported for those who break their fast before completing their fast in the hadith narrated by Al-Hakim from the Prophet (peace be upon him). For this reason, the husband must fear Allah and not be negligent in fasting, and the wife must not obey him in that, for breaking the fast and making it up is for the sick and travelers. As for a Muslim intentionally breaking the fast, it exposes him to Allah's wrath and punishment.
Thirdly: Intercourse during the daytime in Ramadan is one of the greatest nullifiers of fasting and necessitates a severe expiation, which is: freeing a slave; if one cannot find a slave, then fasting for two consecutive months; if one is unable to do that, then feeding sixty poor people. The woman is similar to him if she is willing; however, if she is forced, there is nothing upon her. Furthermore, intercourse while in one's own locality entails five things: sin, invalidation of the fast, the necessity of abstention, the obligation of making up the fast, and the obligation of expiation. If one is unable to fast or feed, the expiation is waived. There is no difference between ejaculation or its absence as long as intercourse has occurred. However, ejaculation without intercourse does not entail expiation; rather, it entails sin, the obligation of abstention, and making up the fast. It is forbidden for the wife to allow her husband to have intercourse in this situation, and if she cannot escape from him, there is nothing upon her, neither making up the fast nor expiation.
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