Does the apparent meaning of the two hadiths indicate that the Prophet (peace be upon him) was unaware of the marriages of Jabir and Abd al-Rahman (may Allah be pleased with them), and that he was not invited to Jabir's wedding ceremony, for example? And does this mean that the Salaf did not attach great importance to wedding invitations and were not bothered if they were not invited to banquets?

The apparent meaning of the hadiths indicates that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was unaware of Jabir's and Abdur-Rahman's marriages. This implies that he was not invited to either of the two wedding feasts. Islamic law encourages the wedding walima (feast) and obligates attendance for those who are invited, as the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said to Abdur-Rahman ibn Awf, "Give a walima, even if it is with one sheep," and his saying, "If any of you is invited, he should respond. If he is fasting, he should pray (for them), and if he is not fasting, he should eat." Ibn Abd al-Barr was of the opinion that responding to a walima invitation is obligatory for those invited, provided there is no idle amusement involved. This was also the view of Malik, Shafi'i, al-Anbari, Abu Hanifa, and his companions. The Prophet's mission, peace and blessings be upon him, was to call people to the religion, and worldly matters were too insignificant in his eyes to provoke his anger.