Is a husband entitled to order his wife to change her habits and behaviors to conform to what he wants, and is she obligated to obey him in all of that, even if it exhausts her psychologically?

A husband must treat his wife well and be gentle with her. He must associate with her in kindness, both in word and deed. It is recommended for the wife to remind her husband of the necessity of gentleness and wisdom in his commands and prohibitions, and to explain to him the obligation of associating in kindness. The wife is obligated to obey her husband in all that he commands, as long as it does not involve disobedience to Allah.