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What is the ruling on a relationship that developed online between a young man and a young woman who only communicated in writing, and is it permissible for them to resume communicating in writing with the intention of getting married?

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Among the objectives of Sharia is to block the means leading to the forbidden (haram). Speaking with and messaging a young woman may lead to falling into forbidden acts. Jurists have prohibited speaking with a young non-mahram woman without necessity, out of fear of temptation. For example, the Hanafis believe it is impermissible, and the Hanbalis hold that a young woman should not return a greeting of peace (salam) to a man to avert corruption. As for the Shafi'is, they deem it forbidden for a young woman to initiate a greeting of peace to a man or to return his greeting, and they consider it disliked for a man to initiate a greeting to her. Therefore, it is impermissible for the brother to continue conversing with the girl online, and he must repent. If he desires her as a wife, he should strive to arrange the matters of marriage. As for the verse in Surah Al-Baqarah, it pertains to the indirect proposal (ta'rid) to a woman in her 'iddah after her husband's death, not a direct proposal (tasrih). There is a significant difference between a man speaking with a woman for the purpose of proposing marriage and speaking beyond that; the former is permissible out of necessity.

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