Is a girl's behavior of avoiding attracting the attention of young men, in an effort to find a righteous marriage, correct, or are her friends right in considering her "stupid" for not trying to attract them?

Believing women must lower their gaze from young men, and beware of invitations from friends to look at them, because looking is one of the arrows of Satan that may lead to dire consequences. If a girl desires to marry a specific young man, and has ascertained his eligibility based on his religious commitment and character by consulting trustworthy individuals, there is no harm in her offering herself to him with politeness and modesty, free from suspicion.