To whom is obedience due: to the father who refuses his daughter's return to her husband unless the husband speaks to him, but the husband refuses, or to the husband who wants his wife to return but refuses to speak to her father?

The husband has more right to his wife than her parents, and obedience to him takes precedence over obedience to them. You must obey your husband and return to your home, even if your parents are not pleased. It is better that you convince your husband to speak with your father to resolve the dispute.