How can one reconcile the hadiths prohibiting lamenting (nadb) and wailing (niyaha) for the deceased, with the hadith: "The Prophet (peace be upon him) came to me one morning after I had been built upon, and sat on my bed as you are sitting with me, and young girls were beating drums, lamenting (yandubna) those of their fathers who were killed on the Day of Badr"?

The ambiguity in the narration by Ar-Rubayyi' bint Mu'awwidh regarding the lamentation of young girls for their fathers who were killed on the day of Badr is resolved by understanding that the prohibited lamentation is that which involves wailing with a raised voice and excessive crying. As for what is mentioned in the hadith (definition), it falls under the category of elegy and mentioning the virtues of the deceased in the form of poetry, and it was not in the manner of wailing or screaming. It is also possible that this occurred before the explicit prohibition of lamentation, which came later, after the Battle of Uhud.