Am I enchanted or ill, and what should I do about my relationship with this woman who is destroying my life?

An 'Urfi marriage is valid if it meets the recognized conditions of a lawful marriage. However, a wife abandoning prayer constitutes disbelief if it stems from denying its obligatory nature, and this invalidates the marriage. If it is due to laziness, there is a concern of her falling into disbelief. Regardless, there is no good in one who abandons prayer, especially when accompanied by neglecting hijab and associating with bad company. The husband is responsible for his wife on the Day of Judgment, and he must compel her to perform prayers, wear hijab, and avoid bad company. If she obeys and commits, he should keep her and patiently strive to guide and call her to righteousness. Otherwise, he should divorce her.