Is it obligatory to boycott the wife's family and divorce her after a dispute between the spouses, and the intervention of the wife's family, and the issuance of statements from them to the husband and his family?

Scholars have differed on the ruling regarding obeying the father if he commands divorcing one's wife. Some have favored the obligation to obey him if the wife is ill-mannered. However, if you see harm in divorcing your wife, there is no impediment to adopting the view of those who do not obligate obedience to the father in this matter. You are not obliged to obey your father in shunning your wife's family, but apologize to him and explain the harms of divorce and the benefits of retaining your wife. You can communicate with your wife's family without your father's knowledge, while continuing to honor him and treat him well.