Is it permissible for a wife to financially establish herself from her husband's money in preparation for divorce, while remaining married to a man who does not engage in marital relations, does not seek treatment, and escapes by watching pornography and masturbating, despite the availability of financial stability and a conflict in temperaments and desires?

Summary of the Answer:

1. The Issue of Virginity (hymen intactus): Inform your husband gently and affectionately that you are a virgin, and explain to him that this is a common issue and that treatment is necessary to preserve affection. 2. Pornographic Viewing and Masturbation: Prudently and with good admonition, warn him about the unlawfulness and corrupting nature of watching pornographic films and masturbation. 3. Taking Money: It is not permissible for you to take anything from his money except for your reasonable maintenance. Anything beyond that may not be taken except with his permission and willing consent. What you took without his permission, you must return. 4. The Solution: Separation is not recommended; rather, efforts should be made towards reconciliation. If that is not possible, and you cannot endure, and he does not respond to you after your frank discussion, then there is no legal impediment to separation, either voluntarily on his part or through judicial means. 5. Frequency of Intercourse: Ibn Taymiyyah states that the frequency of intercourse should be according to the wife's need and the husband's capacity. 6. Offensive Odors: The husband must refrain from consuming anything that produces an offensive odor for his wife, as it causes harm and injury. 7. Final Advice: Be patient and handle matters with wisdom, for problems can be solved and overcome.