What is the ruling on swearing by divorce without uttering the words, or with doubt as to whether they were uttered? What is the ruling on saying, "If you go anywhere without my permission, there will be something else besides beating"? And what is the ruling on saying, "Don't make me say another big thing" with the intention of divorce? And does divorce occur with other words besides explicit pronouncement, or a metaphor, or conditional divorce?

Divorce does not occur through self-talk or doubt, given the general principle that the marriage remains intact. Your statements to your wife, "there will be something else besides hitting," and "don't make me say something else big," do not constitute a suspension of divorce. Rather, it is a threat that has no consequence, as divorce does not occur merely by a promise or a threat. Your fear regarding the words you uttered during the altercation, despite your certainty that you did not utter an explicit divorce or its كناية (allusion), is unfounded. You must ignore these intrusive thoughts about divorce and seek Allah's help.