How do I deal with the loss, deprivation, and harsh experiences I have been exposed to in my life?

It is advisable to endear oneself to the husband and gently guide him towards good treatment, using allusion, direct statement, preaching, or by sending him messages about marital conduct, or by informing someone who can influence him to advise him. Remind him of the command of Allah and His Messenger to honor women and treat them kindly, citing the verses: {And live with them honorably} and {do not harm them so as to oppress them}, and the hadiths: "Fear Allah concerning women" and "The best of you is the best to his family."