To whom is obedience due—to the fiancé or to the father—after the marriage contract (aqd al-qiran), especially if the father is not present and the fiancée lives with her mother?

Before the marriage contract, the suitor has no authority over the fiancée. However, she must respond to him if he commands her to obey or forbids her from disobedience, not in his capacity as a suitor, but as one who enjoins good and forbids evil. If his command conflicts with the command of her parents in a permissible matter, she must obey her parents.

After the marriage contract and before consummation, obedience to the husband is not obligatory, and obedience to the parents takes precedence. However, after consummation, obedience to the husband becomes obligatory in what is good, unless it involves disobedience to Allah. For a married woman, her husband has more right over her than her parents, and obedience to him is more incumbent.