In Laws and Extended Family
200 questions
What is the way to deal with my mother-in-law accusing me of being cold and ill-mannered, simply because I am quiet and do not boast about my accomplishments, even though my husband appreciates this? And is it wrong of me to be bothered when my husband speaks casually with his brothers' wives?
Is the wife sinful for seeking divorce or resorting to the judge for annulment of the marriage, and to what extent is her right to maintenance during the iddah (waiting period) and for the past period during which the husband did not provide for her?
Am I obligated to take my daughter to visit her paternal ex-in-laws, knowing that her father and his family do not maintain ties of kinship with their daughter, and that my current husband refuses to let me take her there personally, and asks my brothers to do so, but they refuse?
What is the ruling regarding a wife leaving her husband's home without his permission to go to her family's house, and is the husband obligated to bring her back, or should she return by herself?
Is it permissible, in Islamic law, for a woman to divorce herself if her husband tells her, "The matter is in your hands," after he departs for jihad, and is she sinful for seeking divorce, knowing that there were security reasons that compelled her to do so? What is the Islamic legal ruling on a khul‘ lawsuit in court, in cooperation with the husband’s family, after a general power of attorney for divorce became unfeasible, and is this considered a divorce or a khul‘ in terms of rights? And is it permissible to formally request khul‘ from the court when the reality of the matter is divorce?
Is it permissible for the wife to refuse to go to her husband's family home and to refrain from visiting them and from letting the children stay overnight with them?
Is it permissible for the husband's father to wake his household for Fajr prayer in a terrifying manner (by banging on iron doors) when there are young children present?
What is the optimal course of action given a girl's desire to marry a committed young man whose aunt has proposed to her on his behalf, yet the girl's family might reject this marriage due to a weak connection between the two families, coupled with the girl's fear of a family conflict and her parents considering her too young for marriage and wishing for her to complete her university education?
Am I sinful before God regarding my husband's tyrannical mother, whom I insulted by saying her words lacked manners, and then I apologized to her, but she refused to forgive me? And is it a sin if my husband does not speak to me until she is appeased, which is impossible due to her humiliation of me?
What is the ruling on marrying a Muslim woman who has no Muslim guardian—given that her family are Christians—provided that one of the Muslims acts as her guardian and with the presence of two witnesses, bearing in mind that the marriage will not be officially documented because it cannot be documented in the country where the suitor resides except after procedures that take months, and the woman has a tourist visa, meaning her stay is temporary?
Am I entitled to ask my wife to bear the burden of serving my mother, who will be visiting for ten days, or would that be a detraction from her rights?
Is it haram to feel love with the intention of marriage, even if it is impossible due to differences in nationality, and is mixing (between genders) haram, and what should one do in this situation?
Is a wife's boycotting of her husband's father, who attempted to sexually harass her, considered a severing of kinship ties?
Is the wife obligated to visit and serve those who spread false rumors about her, knowing that the husband considers this normal and she fears it will destroy her psychologically?
Is it permissible to marry a second time without the knowledge of the first wife, to bypass statutory laws regarding polygyny, not to inform the guardian of the second wife that I am already married, and to marry with the following conditions agreed upon by the second wife: renouncing the right to childbirth, separation without consequences, renouncing the right to inheritance, and maintaining secrecy from the husband's family and acquaintances?
Is the wife considered disobedient to her husband if she refuses to return to the family home and asks for a separate dwelling after a dispute occurred with her in-laws and her husband's brother assaulted her, and after her husband left her at her family's home for several months without financial support or inquiring about her, while she is pregnant?
Is the wife sinful if she refuses to visit her husband's family, or his sister, or his aunt, and is she obligated to obey him in that regard?
Is the wife considered sinful because her husband severs ties of kinship, even though she strives to maintain relations with his family and is keen on teaching her daughters to uphold kinship ties?
What is the way to deal with a wife who is ill-tempered, extremely jealous, does not respect her in-laws, and does not accept discussion, even though she fulfills her household duties and adheres to religious observances?
What is the ruling regarding a wife's refusal to visit her husband's family, and what is the right of the husband's parents over the wife?
Is a divorce, where a Muslim woman divorces herself in Europe, considered a religiously valid divorce, and what is the ruling concerning her second marriage if her first husband did not divorce her according to Islamic law?
What is the ruling on a wife's desire not to inform her husband's parents of any actions she takes, whether it be buying or renting real estate, or any matter related to her own parents?
Is a khul‘ valid religiously if the husband does not agree to it, does not accept compensation, and sees no reason for divorce, especially since the problem was between him and the wife’s family, knowing that the laws in his country do not rule according to Islamic law, and that the wife agreed to return before the judge but her father refused, and she did not declare her hatred for her husband? And is the husband considered to be severing ties of kinship for being unable to visit his son due to the wife's family, despite providing for the maintenance and all the son's needs?
What is the ruling on completing a marriage to a suitor who works as a judge in the field of misdemeanors and felonies, and who considers this permissible, citing Qur'anic verses, and who believes that usurious gains are Haram only if they are excessive, keeping in mind that my family will be angry if the marriage is not completed, and what should I do if he is not convinced by the proofs of prohibition?