What is the ruling on marrying a person who believes that his commitment stems from upbringing and customs, not from religion, and who wants to impose matters on his fiancée, refuses her working and completing her studies, and stipulates that she dedicate herself entirely to him and to the children, and who believes that housework is her duty, and refuses the condition of a maid in the marriage contract, and objects to her way of dressing and her watching movies and listening to music, and forbids her from going out to public places?

Fatwa Summary:

First: Among the Shariah violations in the question are: 1. Traveling without a mahram. 2. Corresponding with a non-mahram via the internet. 3. Usurious loan disguised as a murabaha (cost-plus financing) scheme. 4. Conversation between fiancés before the marriage contract. 5. Difficult conditions for marriage. 6. The belief that a wife's service in her home is not obligatory but a favor. 7. Believing that watching movies and acting is permissible. 8. Denying the prohibition of listening to music, wearing trousers, and abandoning the head abaya.

Second: Among the permissible matters objected to by the suitor is: The fiancée's father's condition regarding a maid.

Third: Matters requested by the suitor which are correct: 1. The wife dedicating herself to her home and children. 2. Abandoning music, movies, acting, wearing trousers, and adhering to the head abaya. 3. His refusal to go to mixed-gender places, stemming from praiseworthy jealousy.

Fourth: General advice: If there is no harmony or understanding on fundamental issues before marriage, it is better to pause. The fiancée must reform herself and abandon forbidden things. If the suitor agrees to understanding and continuation, then it is good. Otherwise, we do not advise him to marry her. Happiness lies in obeying Allah and seeking His pleasure.