What is the ruling regarding a husband who stays up late looking at lewd magazines and does not have marital relations with his wife, which affects the marital life?
Marital problems can affect both parties, and to solve them, details must be known. The wife's patience and eagerness to maintain the marriage are appreciated, and she should seek reward from Allah.
Steps to resolution: 1. Be frank with your husband: Ask him about the reason for his weariness and avoidance of intimacy. He might be embarrassed by sexual impotence or other reasons. Clarify your right to fulfillment, and that knowing the reason will increase his standing with you. 2. A gentle message: If he refuses to discuss, try a gentle message as a means of communication. 3. Attractiveness and renewal: Pay attention to your appearance (clothing, perfumes) in a way that pleases him, and renew the daily routine. 4. Express love: Express your love and appreciation to him with words and simple gifts. 5. Smile and be friendly: Look at him with affection and smile sincerely. 6. Seek what he loves: Do what your husband loves in terms of words and actions, seeking the face of Allah. 7. Seek a mediator: If all methods are exhausted, bring in a wise and trusted mediator for your husband, who can hint at marital rights without mentioning the details of your problem. 8. Indirect advice: Invite him to abandon what angers Allah (such as inappropriate magazines) through indirect methods (e.g., placing fatwas, playing religious tapes, reading the Quran next to him). 9. Do not consider divorce: Strive and be patient to earn reward, unless patience becomes impossible and there is no alternative. 10. Self-care and faith: Strengthen your relationship with Allah, occupy yourself with useful matters (a project, charity work), and entertain yourself in accordance with Sharia.
Keys to resolution: 1. Supplication (Du'a): Make abundant supplications during times of answer for your husband's righteousness, guidance, and affection between you. 2. Certainty and good expectation of Allah: Trust in Allah's ability to change things. 3. Patience: Patience is the key to relief and victory, and with hardship come two eases.
Ask Allah to reconcile between you and delight your eyes with your husband.
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