What should I do with my physical desires for my wife, whom I abandoned due to her arrogant treatment, her attempts to sow discord between me and my family, and her creation of problems, despite my repeated and fruitless admonitions to her?

Marital life is not without problems, and a wise husband is one who can contain them and seek radical solutions for them. Most problems stem from a partner's lack of understanding of the other's nature.

The cause of the problem might be the wife's arrogance or the husband's misunderstanding of her personality. Therefore, the husband must first review himself and consider whether he has strived to rectify her through effective methods.

Allah has commanded that a wife's defiance (nushuz) be addressed first with good counsel. Allah Almighty says: "As for those [wives] from whom you fear defiance, admonish them, and abandon them in bed, and strike them. But if they obey you, do not seek a way against them."

It is advised to exhaust effort in counseling the wife and varying the methods of advice, seeking help from wise individuals among her family or relatives, and reforming her heart through kindness. If these methods do not succeed, and there is no solution but a non-bruising strike, then it may be resorted to.

If none of these solutions succeed, and the husband is able to marry another woman, then he should do so, while being just between them and fearing Allah regarding both.