Is obedience to one's father obligatory if he refuses to allow his adult son to obtain a driving license, on the grounds that it would affect his studies, even though the son sees no conflict between the two and needs to drive?
Allah has commanded obedience to parents, and He has promised a great reward for those who obey them and a great sin for those who disobey them, as stated in His verse: (And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be dutiful to your parents). If parents command their son to do or refrain from doing a permissible act, such as driving a car, and there is a benefit for them or an interest for the son in doing so, then he must obey them, even if it involves hardship. In this case, the father prevented his son from obtaining a driver's license for fear that it would distract him from his studies, which is an acceptable justification; therefore, obedience is obligatory. Sheikh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah said: "A person must obey his parents in matters that do not involve disobedience (to Allah), even if they are disobedient (to Allah), and this is clear from the general statements of Ahmad. This applies to matters in which there is a benefit for them and no harm (to the son). If it causes him hardship but does not harm him, then it is obligatory; otherwise, it is not." Al-Fakihani also indicated the obligation of obeying them in permissible matters. Furthermore, driving a car entails financial costs borne by the father, which increases the obligation of obedience. The son must obey his father and appreciate his experience and compassion, and try to convince him calmly. If the father insists on refusing, then the son must obey and be content, trusting that Allah will compensate him with something better for abandoning the matter seeking Allah's pleasure.
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