Speech and Backbiting
338 questions
Is my description of my husband's female colleague as "bad," "treacherous," and a "hussy" considered backbiting (gheebah) and name-calling (tanabuz bil alqab), especially given that she initiated the flirtatious correspondence that led to the development of the illicit relationship between her and my husband?
Is there a sin incurred by someone who was harmed by his paternal uncle’s wife’s gloating and malice, when he said: "Gloating is not part of my character, and I have never gloated over anyone, otherwise I would have gloated over her when my paternal uncle's wife did such-and-such to her daughter"; knowing that he did not mention the name of his paternal uncle's wife or her daughter, and the statement was in the third person, and his intention was to convey that gloating is not a sound moral trait?
Is speaking about girls who wear the Shar'i dress and err in their dealings with men considered backbiting?
Is it obligatory to inform the one whom you have backbitten about what you said regarding them when seeking their forgiveness, and how many times should one seek forgiveness for them?
How should one deal with an employee who spies on colleagues and divulges their secrets to managers? Is it permissible to pray behind him, offer him condolences in his misfortunes, and offer condolences upon his death?
How can a woman abandon the dominance of her emotions and feminine way of thinking to reach the mature thinking of a man, and should she read to achieve that? Is there hope for a woman to stop excessive talk, backbiting, and slander? And is a woman subordinate to a man because Adam was created first?
What is the ruling on publishing videos that are repulsive to people — such as those of disfigured children — with the intention of praising Allah for good health and drawing lessons and admonitions?
Is mentioning news about a person who does not want it spread considered backbiting, and is speaking with one's wife about news, characteristics, or an opinion regarding someone considered backbiting?
Can a person withdraw from people because of their failure to repent from backbiting and slander, and because their gatherings are filled with envy, falsehood, and lies? And is visiting one's paternal uncle considered maintaining kinship ties?
Is it permissible for a girl to talk about things that concern both women and men?
Does relating a story about an incident that occurred with an individual who criticized mosque imams, without mentioning his name, count as backbiting and eating people's flesh?
Is it permissible to offer expiation for a vow instead of fulfilling an oath to abstain from fasting for three days and seeking forgiveness ten thousand times, a vow made by one whose backbiting and slips of the tongue have become frequent?
What is the ruling on ending a friendship with those who only accept (you) when they are in need and cause much annoyance, and is mentioning their harm by way of complaint considered backbiting?
Is it permissible to explain the situation of a two-faced person, specifically to my sheikh, or is that considered backbiting (namimah)?
Is the backbiting mentioned in the noble Hadith, "Your ذكر of your brother with what he dislikes," restricted to his absence? If it is not backbiting, then what are the abusive statements made about a present person called? And what is the meaning of "then you have slandered him"?
What is the ruling on maintaining ties of kinship with relatives characterized by envy, the evil eye, backbiting, and ill-suspicion, knowing that they initiated these behaviors and that both parents have passed away?
Is a person held accountable for every word they utter, with the exception of enjoining good, forbidding evil, or the remembrance of Allah, as stated in the Hadith: "Every word of the son of Adam is against him and not for him, except enjoining good, forbidding evil, or the remembrance of Allah"? And is extensive or limited talk about worldly matters such as sports, types of cars, jokes for entertainment, or problems at work and with family considered idle talk (laghw)? What are the afflictions of the tongue, with real-life examples to avoid them, such as backbiting, slander, hypocrisy, false witness, prying, and idle talk?
What is the ruling on illustrated jokes circulated on social media for entertainment, and does the ruling differ if the images are of men or women?
Is it permissible for a woman to describe the beauty of another woman to her husband, or her ugliness? And is it forbidden for a husband to describe a man to his wife?
Are there any Hadith about backbiting, spying, and suspicion?
What is the ruling on speaking about individuals who abandoned the call to Islam and caused harm, having clear Sharia violations, with the intention of alleviating sorrow and not with the intention of causing harm? Is it permissible to listen to such talk? And is it obligatory for the listener to object to the speaker?
Is informing one's sister about the hurtful actions of a distressing partner, which cause distress, considered backbiting (gheebah) or calumny (nameemah) that necessitates sin, especially given that the sole aim is to alleviate distress?
What is the standard for permissible verbal abuse when necessitated by need or benefit, directed at an unjust ruler responsible for the killing and imprisonment of many? Is it limited to describing him as unjust and a murderer, or does it include more demeaning verbal abuse, even if considered offensive by custom? Is it better to refrain from it?
What is the ruling on a husband telling his wife, "You are a servant to me"? And is the wife in the position of a servant to her husband? And do the Hadith and Sunnah prohibit excessive jealousy that prevents a wife from discussing marital matters with her friends or prevents her from performing hijama for fear of her name being mentioned?