What can I do to get rid of the rapid, unprecedented behavior driven by thought, which causes me regret after every word I say in anger?

It is advisable to stay away from the causes of anger, such as argumentation and disputation, and to accustom oneself to patience, forbearance, suppressing rage, and gentleness. For "deliberation" and "forbearance" are two qualities beloved by Allah, and "gentleness" beautifies matters. And whoever becomes angry should not act on account of his anger, but should change his state, hold his tongue, perform ablution, and seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytan.