Is it true that my husband has the right to dispose of my private money, which I inherited or obtained from my family, and has the right to prevent me from spending from it to buy my necessities, based on Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim's interpretation of the noble verse: "And do not give the foolish your property, which Allah has made a means of sustenance for you, but provide for them out of it and clothe them," and that he has absolute guardianship over my money? And is what I spend on my personal needs considered extravagance and waste, while his spending on his family is considered dutifulness to them, knowing that they spend lavishly and extravagantly?

Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, is one of the great scholars of the Ummah, and his book Ighathat al-Lahfan is one of his best works. He often has controversial choices in matters of jurisprudence, and this issue, namely the husband preventing his wife from donating her money except with his permission, is one of the disputed matters. A woman has her independent financial ذمة (financial liability/right to dispose of her own property), and she has the right to dispose of what she owns within the permissible limits of Sharia. There is nothing in his words that implies the husband's right to take his wife's money or prevent her from taking money from her family. It is not the right of the husband's family to interfere in the marital life except for reconciliation, and they are not allowed to order him to divorce his wife without a legitimate reason. The son is not obligated to obey his parents in this unless they have a legitimate reason. It is reprehensible for the husband's mother to reveal the secrets of the marital life and tarnish the image of her son's wife. We advise patience and abundant supplication to Allah to mend what is between you and your husband and his family, and for affection to prevail among the in-laws. You should strive to convince your husband to resolve problems with mutual respect to preserve the family.