If a husband says to his wife: "If you tell your family, your life is over and destroyed," is that considered a contingent divorce, and what is the ruling on not asking him about his intention?

This utterance from the husband is a metaphorical divorce (kinayah talaq) contingent upon the wife informing her family. Since the wife has already informed some of her family, she must ask her husband about his intention behind this utterance. If he intended divorce, it occurs; if he did not intend divorce, it does not occur. This is because a metaphorical utterance does not effect a divorce except with intention, and the husband should be asked about his intention. If he intended to effect a divorce, then if he specified certain individuals from the family, it becomes contingent upon them. If he intended all family members, the divorce occurs upon informing any one of them.