Anger and Patience
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What is the comprehensive interpretation of the the Most High's saying: "And verily he between whom and you was enmity would become as though he were a devoted friend"?
What is the supplication that helps an expatriate mother to alleviate her irritability and her screaming at her children, after she feels regret due to boredom and despair?
Is what I do, performing the Witr prayer after the second Adhan for Fajr prayer, correct? Is it permissible for me to continue supplicating if the first Adhan overtakes me? Is the Witr prayer valid after the first Adhan? Is there sin in supplicating with: "Oh Allah, make my husband devoted to me," or "Oh Allah, extinguish his anger with 'there is no god but Allah,' and attract his love with 'there is no power nor strength except with Allah'"?
Is it legislatively (Shariah-wise) more appropriate to remain silent about others' moral and behavioral mistakes, or to advise them with gentleness and kindness? And does this contradict the required patience? And what is the extent of its relation to the noble Hadith: "Anas said: 'I served the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, for ten years. By Allah, he never once said to me, 'Uff (an exclamation of disapproval),' nor did he say regarding something I did, 'Why did you do that?' nor regarding something I did not do, 'Why did you not do that?'" And should advice continue for those who do not respond?
What is the ruling on the action of a son who curses his mother (without her hearing him) because of her anger and her praying for death upon herself and her children?
How can one repent and seek forgiveness for committing immorality after stealing money? And do the stolen funds alleviate God's wrath?
How can one acquire good character, and is it incumbent upon him to be patient with the wrongdoer out of forbearance, or to retaliate in kind, in accordance with the noble verse: "And those who, when tyranny strikes them, they يَنتَصِرُون (help themselves/defend themselves)"? And when is a gentle or strict approach appropriate in Da‘wah (inviting to Islam)?
Does the son who obeyed his father by boycotting his friend, who betrayed him for over a year, fall under the Hadith: "Whoever does not speak to his brother for three days"?
What do you advise me to do to give up wrongdoing after repentance? Am I sinful for wronging those who do not show their anger, such as insulting brothers without them showing any reaction? And how should repentance be?
What is the ruling on a husband prohibiting his children and wife to himself if a son goes anywhere other than school, and does this prohibition take effect even though the husband uttered it in a state of extreme anger, then insisted upon it, and how can the husband retract this oath, and does this entail the prohibition of his wife to him?
What is the wisdom behind prioritizing forgiveness over reconciliation in the noble verse: "But whoever forgives and reconciles – then his reward is due from Allah"?
Is it permissible to quarrel with a disobedient person or one who abandons prayer if he intends to provoke the righteous?
What is the religious ruling on not forgiving someone who wronged me and has passed away, and is there any sin upon me for that, and what is the safest course of action religiously?
What is the ruling on attachment to other than Allah, and is forgiveness and shaking hands with those who have wronged one a sign of weakness or humiliation?
Does divorce take effect if the husband utters it after a quarrel and disputes, and a threat of divorce from the wife, and what is the ruling if the wife utters offensive words about the husband's family during the quarrel?
Will the prayer of a mother be answered if she bears false witness, causes discord among her children, and invokes evil upon her grandchildren due to their bad manners, even if she is served and treated with kindness?
Does saying "May God forgive you" to someone who caused anger, without internal forgiveness and a desire to obtain one's right, relinquish that right on the Day of Resurrection, and what is the meaning and function of this phrase in religion?
What is best Islamically, greatest in reward, most pleasing to Allah, most perfect in character, and most preserving of chivalry and dignity when offered assistance (such as a gift, forgiveness, or a service): Is it always to accept, or always to refuse, or does it depend on the actual need?
Has a divorce occurred in any of the following cases: 1. Upon agreeing to the wife's request, "Give my personal ID, private papers, and the contract to lawyer so-and-so" with the intention of divorce, or upon agreeing to her request, "Have your sisters collect my clothes and send them to my family's home"? 2. Upon uttering the word of divorce in a low voice without a clear intention or a deliberate comparison to the utterance, and is this considered a mistaken divorce? 3. Upon saying "I don't want her" loudly with the intention of separation? 4. Upon saying "I don't want her" to my mother with the intention of confirming the previous decision and not initiating a new divorce? 5. Upon discussing alimony and entitlements with the lawyer after divorce in a conversation that suggests the matter is concluded? 6. Upon informing the wife's father that two divorces have occurred and that my decision is not to reconcile and that separation is better? 7. Does my supplication for my wife, "Oh Allah, forgive me and my wife," after the aforementioned events, constitute a reconciliation? 8. Does repeating the words of divorce for inquiry from scholars or a lawyer, whether verbally or in writing, constitute a new initiation of divorce? 9. Does internal monologue from which words related to divorce emerge, even if not accurately remembered, cause anything to occur? 10. Does moving the tongue slightly without sound during internal monologue with the words "she won't return" cause anything to occur? 11. Does internal monologue directed at her father, "If it were just anger, I would have taken her back, but the matter is different," cause anything to occur? 12. Does uttering "divorced" or "مطلق" (divorced) about myself, meaning the end of the relationship, cause anything to occur? 13. Does mentioning the word divorce in a general context, and not specifically about my wife, cause anything to occur?
Is one who dares not advise another who errs in prayer sinful, given that he is by nature shy and cannot overcome his shyness except with those close to him?
Is refraining from defending oneself against someone of high social standing—for fear of sin—correct, or is it permissible to defend oneself regardless of the abuser's status?
Is it permissible to dislike one's father due to his bad manners, extreme anger, unemployment, insulting his wife and children, and occasional verbal blasphemy?
Should one control anger towards smokers, despite the physical harm resulting from smoke and the difficulty of self-control, and is this action considered a sin that God forgives?
How can one avoid major shirk in contemporary society, and is performing two rak'ahs of repentance daily with the intention of disavowing shirk a means to achieve this, especially given the intense fear of falling into it?